Coming Back to Yourself: The Journey of Letting Go

In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to lose sight of who we truly are. Many of us find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of expectations, responsibilities, routines, and societal norms that can cloud our identity. The journey to rediscovering our authentic selves often begins with a powerful act of letting go.

The Weight of Expectations

For years, I felt a lingering sense of disconnection. It was as if I was wearing a mask, performing a role that didn’t resonate with my true self. The pressures of daily life and the expectations of others created a fog that obscured my inner voice. I often wondered, “Am I happy?". If you know anything about me- you know working a 9-5 is a draining experience for me. I never feel like I can do my best work under the expectations of hours. I like flexibility, freedom and limited meeting life!

A Beacon of Hope

Then, one day, amidst the chaos, I saw a lighthouse. It was a symbol of guidance and hope, cutting through the dense fog that had enveloped me. This lighthouse provided me with clarity, a reminder that there is always a way back home to ourselves. They illuminated the path I needed to take, encouraging me to step away from what was holding me back, without evening knowing they did so. Their presence alone was able to help me connect with myself, again- thank you.

The Power of Letting Go

Letting go can be one of the most liberating experiences we can encounter. It involves releasing the burdens that weigh us down—whether they are toxic relationships, unfulfilling jobs, or negative thought patterns. By shedding these layers, we create space for our authentic selves to emerge. It can be scary- taking a leap off into the unknown. Away from comfort of your routine, being stuck, anything that you think may be holding you back. Here is some unsolicited advice:

1. Identify What Holds You Back: Take time to reflect on the aspects of your life that feel constricting. What makes you feel small or unworthy? Acknowledging these elements is the first step toward liberation.

For me- it was not being honest with myself about what I wanted. Not allowing myself to see what I deserved. I know I deserve great things- you do too!

2. Take the leap, things change: Change can be daunting, but it is often necessary for growth. Embrace the discomfort that comes with letting go; it is a sign that you are moving toward something better.

For me- the leap was TERRIFYING. I was so used to being and doing the same things and living life to not be my happiest self. Letting someone else's energy dictate mine. Once I took the leap, I truly saw what it was doing to me.

3. Reconnect with Your Passions: What brings you joy? Engage in activities that resonate with your true self. Whether it’s painting, writing, or spending time in nature, these passions can help illuminate your path.

For me- I listened to myself. Started traveling and seeing friends, enjoying my time exercising instead of seeing it as a chore. I reconnected with myself and listened to her. After doing EMDR therapy- you'd think I'd be able to listen to myself. Things take time!

4. Seek Support: Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you. Sharing your journey with others can provide encouragement and accountability as you navigate the process of rediscovery.

For me- support is one of the most important things you can do. I could not live without my support system and appreciate how much they truly supported me and my journey. I love you all.

Finding Your Way Home

As I began to let go of what no longer served me, I felt a profound sense of relief. The smoke that had clouded my vision started to dissipate, revealing a clearer view of my authentic self, and what it means when Jess is truly happy. The lighthouse is still guiding me. Guiding me home to the person I was always meant to be. In the end, coming back to yourself is not just about finding your identity; it’s about embracing all the parts of yourself. I will still have my doubt and tic whenever something is bothering me- but I choose myself.

It’s a continuous journey of self-discovery that requires courage, patience, and love.

Conclusion

Letting go can be a transformative experience, allowing us to reconnect with our authentic selves. Just like the lighthouse that guided me to remind myself of what I deserve, we all have the ability to find our way back home.

By embracing change and releasing what no longer serves us, we can step into the light of our true identity and live a life that resonates with our deepest values and passions.